After you''re gone

*Chills* Do you really know what happens after you die? What people say or do in your absence? (this is a rhetorical question). I don't expect that you'd do because the body is already in a state of unconsciousness, a permanent one or eternal sleep. A month ago I lost an aunt to cancer, it was very hard seeing her the way she was before she finally passed on. Today I went to a reception made in her honour with my family. This time around there was no tears from anyone. I was with my close knit family or extended family and listening to what the adults had to say made me think deeply. I was glad I was able to learn from them as well amidst the jokes they made, disagreements, and the points they made.

For instance, NEVER put an outsider in charge of your family regardless how close you both might be. Humans are crazy and always want to have sole authority, in other words as long as we're in position of authority we always want people to KNOW we're in charge. By doing so we end up over stepping our boundaries. Also, if a person confides in you, they do this because they have trust in you that you'll definitely keep that promise even after they are long gone. It is very disrespectful to put out a person's secrets for the world to know most especially if they never wanted that to happen.

After we're gone, we always hope that people we leave behind aren't selfish enough to put aside their differences. The quarrels and misunderstandings should be laid to rest. It is always worse when a woman dies because the husband is left alone to cater to children especially if they are so young. I pray we don't lose anyone we love because when we lose someone so close to us it is very painful.

Well, Tribute to my aunt Julie. I'm really glad you're resting and in a better place and there won't be any more pain. R.I.P :)